Friday, 27 February 2009

Farewell GoneBackSouth!

Almost a year ago I met a wonderful new Blogging friend who goes by the name of "GoneBackSouth"
My own blog was just beginning and I had got off to a bumpy start and only had two readers...
I never knew what to write about and I was almost giving up having a blog when I got a visit from GoneBackSouth through the link on my main profile page of the Mike Leigh film "Life Is Sweet" - a great favourite of mine.

A connection was made and she saw the post that I had written at that time with the video of Annie Lennox and David Bowie singing "Under Pressure" at the Freddie Mercury Tribute Concert.
This lovely lady then wrote a post on her own blog with a link to my blog and said some very nice things about me and my writing.

Only a few hours after that I started to get so many visitors! All thanks to GoneBackSouth and she introduced me to a whole community of wonderful people, all very talented writers and truly genuine and kind people who I always doubted could exist in the virtual world!
I was also introduced to many other British expats and I was now reading many posts that I could relate to, being far from the U.K!

This week GoneBackSouth is sadly quitting her blog to concentrate on her own life and I can understand that as I too have found it hard at times to keep my blog going when I have had other things or problems to deal with.
She says that she may be back with another identity in the future, and I hope that she will, but if you don't come back GBS I want to wish you all the very best in all that you do and wish you lots of happiness, health, wealth and success in your life!

I wanted to write this post to say a big Thank You and a very sad farewell to my blogging friend GoneBackSouth.... Thank You for introducing me to many of your own blogging friends that in turn kept my blog alive and has kept me continually inspired to write new posts! I am eternally grateful.

This is the beauty of blogging: all the truly wonderful people who we meet along the way...
some we meet for just a short while, some for a long while, but everyone who we meet along the way is connected to us for a reason.
For a while we may walk along the same road, but there are times when that road becomes a junction and each person needs to take a new route, a new journey in life...

Farewell GoneBackSouth! You truly will be sorely missed! XXX




Monday, 23 February 2009

Britain's Golden Girl Kate!!


8 months ago I predicted this year's Best Actress win at the Oscar's and that was many, many months before any nominations were ever announced!
I had been reading all about the filming process of "The Reader" on the internet and I just had a great feeling about it and last night my prediction came true!!

Kate Winslet: such a tremendously talented British actress, and one of my absolute favourites, has been nominated six times.
At last nights Oscar's she finally took home the gold for Best Actress in the incredible film "The Reader"!
Her speech was as wonderful and as down-to-earth as she is and it was very emotional watching her absolute joy of winning! I felt so proud watching a fellow Brit and amazing actress win!

Congratulations Kate!!! You are England's pride and joy and you deserve all the recognition you are now receiving!!!

I watched "The Reader" at the cinema when I travelled to Rio last week and it really is an amazing film with superb performances, it's a very heartbreaking film with a strong back-story.
I highly recommend it! But don't expect to leave the cinema with a smile on your face! ;)

And in case you missed it, or want to see it again, here is her wonderful Oscar acceptance speech from last night:

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Friday, 20 February 2009

My Rio, How I Missed You!/Meu Rio, Tantos Saudades!


First of all I'd like to say sorry to all my Blogging friends for not visiting you these past couple of weeks! but you know how it is when you're travelling: the last thing on your mind is the internet and the closest I get to it when I'm travelling is by going to a cybercafe to check my e-mails, as I refuse to take my laptop with me and run the risk of having it robbed.
I promise you all that I will be visiting your Blogs again soon!

I had a wonderful time in Rio de Janeiro! I rented a wonderful one bedroom apartment in Copacabana for seven days directly in front of the beach (the photo on this post was taken from the window) and I couldn't have wished for a better holiday!
I visited old friends, met some of my ex-students for lunches in the city and had a wonderful "Welcome back to Rio" meal with my best friend and his girlfriend at their beautiful apartment in Copacabana.

I went to the beach every day (although the first few days were cloudy) and I have arrived back home very, very dark brown! I think the only time I have been this dark was when I still lived in Rio and would go to the beach every morning before teaching English in the afternoons...

I went out every night and felt alive again, I walked along the pavement (calçadão) beside the beach every afternoon and had a few ice-cold beers (chopps) and some wonderful prawn pastries (pastel de camarão) or crepes at some of the wonderful beachside kiosks that are on the pavement all along the beach. It was wonderful to just relax there, sitting alone in the sun and watching the world go by, watching all the beautiful people of Rio walking along the calçadão on Copacabana beach or gazing out across the horizon of one of the most beautiful beaches in the world.

In many ways this holiday was a very liberating and spiritual experience for me. You see for many years I haven't had a holiday alone and I enjoyed it so much, I enjoyed sitting at those beachside kiosks eating and drinking on my own. For my British Blogging friends I would say it was my "Shirley Valentine" moment! haha
I just started to plan this relaxing holiday; I booked the apartment in advance on the internet and got the coach to Rio, which takes two and a half hours to arrive there.

By the way anyone who is planning to travel to Brasil I can put you in touch with some wonderful people who own private apartments to rent in Rio and much cheaper than english sites that you find on the internet...
The woman who I rented my apartment with has nine other luxurious apartments with everything you need for your stay, all in front of or very close to the beach and her prices are very reasonable indeed! (and I researched for weeks before my trip!)

While I was there I researched the possibilities of work as I am planning to return to Rio de Janeiro to live once again.
Since I have lived up here in the mountains (about two and a half hours from Rio) I haven't been so happy; the weather here is very different, there is no beach, and most of the time it is cold - in the winter it is extremely cold. Of course in the summer it is hotter but nothing like Rio.
Also the place where I live now is a very small city and there is nothing here and of course, being such a small place, there is no work for me here too and I am no longer the independent person I always was, so all of these things have added to my unhappiness here.
Of course I'm happy in all other parts of my life but I just cannot stand still in a place where my life seems frozen in time...
After all that I've been through in my life so far I know that life is far too short to be wasted, I want to live every day as if it were my last with no regrets of "I should have done that, I could have done that, I wish I had done that...."
I don't want to be spending my days just waiting for something to happen, I'm not that kind of person.

Returning home last night I realised how much I have really missed my Rio de Janeiro! There is a vibrant feel to the city and beach life, a positive uplifting spell that the sea air blows through your soul, it's a very magical place for me.
I won't lie to you: Rio does have violence like every other big city in the world but as long as you don't go to dangerous places after dark and stick to the tourist places you're o.k. Most of the crime is petty thieves stealing wallets or jewellery, but like every Carioca living in Rio I learned years ago to not walk along wearing a watch, ring or necklace. It's safer to leave all of that at home to avoid standing out as a perfect target, I would only wear my watch and ring when I am going somewhere in the evening when I would be getting a taxi to and from the place.
The same rule goes for carrying money and credit cards: I only carry the cash that I need and only one credit card, so that if I were to get robbed I know that I have my other cards safe inside the apartment.
These are all simple ways to have a great and safe holiday, after all it all boils down to common sense in the end...

I think us Brits are a bit more savvy when travelling as in Rio you can always spot the Americans walking along the beach in their clothes while everyone else is wearing only swimming trunks (Sungas) and bikinis (Biquini). They appear to be open targets to be robbed and might as well have a big sign on their foreheads that says "Please rob me!" ("Por Favor me Roubar!") as most stand in a trance looking at everything whilst wearing their flashy watches, jewellery and pointing their digital cameras/digicams at everything, oblivious that anyone can approach them with a gun ready to steal all their belongings.
Of course this isn't all Americans, and I'm not being prejudiced by mentioning this! but I have seen a lot of them in Rio over the years. The secret is to blend in with the locals which I myself learned to do when I first arrived in Brasil, but you wouldn't know that I am British until I open my mouth to speak in Portuguese with my British accent, as I have dark hair, am tanned most of the year and wear mostly Brazilian clothes.

I left Rio four years ago to escape the violence at the time, and to live in a safer place, but since returning there this week I have realised that Rio isn't as violent as I once imagined, maybe I overreacted at the time...
After all violence is everywhere these days, London is fast becoming a violent city too and the knife attacks there are terrible now, this "new fashion" that is sweeping the country where innocent people are being stabbed and killed, or scarred for life! It's not the place I once knew and always felt safe in.
At least in Rio as long as you don't react if being robbed at gunpoint you don't put yourself in danger... just give them all your belongings that they want and walk away and then work to buy everything all again. And in all my years living in Rio I was never once robbed, the only time I have ever been robbed here in Brasil was when I travelled to a place called Natal, which is in the North-East of the country and far more dangerous than Rio de Janeiro.

No, seeing my marvellous city (Cidade Maravilhosa - which is what Rio is known as here) again this week I can see that I need to return to live there, I already miss it so much and I only arrived home last night... I've always been a beach person and love living near the sea.
My friends have already begun to find me new potential private students there and all my ex-students (businessmen and women who I used to teach in companies in the city) were so happy to hear my plans of moving back there and want to return to have classes with me again, so things are looking very good for me. Even the woman who I rented the apartment with took my business card and now has five people who want to have classes with me!
I'm in a great position as it's not easy to find a native British English teacher from London who lives permanently in Rio (and who has ten years experience in teaching) and most people want to have English lessons with a native speaking teacher.
In the near future I want to find work doing something different but for the time being I know that I can get plenty of work teaching English in Rio.

I don't think we should run away from things in life, I've always faced things head-on in the very worst of situations in the past and I know that I am a survivor, anyone who has read my past posts will know that.
In fact I would go as far to say that you could put me in any country in the world and I know that I could survive, any difficulties can be overcome, the important thing is to be happy and never give up living!!


This post has been awarded runner-up contender for "Post Of The Day" for 23/02/2009 over at David McMahon's Blog Thank you very much David!


Wednesday, 4 February 2009

Enjoying The Brazilian Sunshine!


Sorry that I haven't been around for a while to read your blogs or write any new posts but I've been enjoying the Brazilian Summertime here at the moment!
The heat has been incredible and I am topping up my dark brown "almost native carioca" tan! haha

It took me many years to get used to the fact that Brazil has it's Summertime while it is Winter in the UK, totally opposite to what I was used to! and Christmas time still feels weird to me when the temperatures can be as high as 40 degrees celcius here! I would still prefer a white Christmas...

This past week I've been visiting natural waterfalls in the mountains and soon I will be visiting the city of Rio de Janeiro to have a short holiday; swim in the crimson sea, sunbathe on some golden sands and see some old friends!

Sorry for "rubbing it in" to any of my dear fellow Brit blogger friends reading this as I know that you are all experiencing the worst snow and coldest winter weather there in the UK in 18 years!
I spoke to my Dad and he can't get out of the house as he is snowed in and there is ice everywhere which is making it much too dangerous for anyone to drive anywhere!
I have told him to order his food shopping with an online supermarket home delivery service and sit it out until the "big thaw" arrives!!

When I lived in London as soon as the Winter months arrived I would be planning my holidays abroad as I could never stand the bitter cold months. So I would choose a hot place with a beach and escape there for 2 or 3 weeks - I guess I was never really your typical English guy! My soul has found it's home at last!

So all I can say to my fellow Brits is: pack a suitcase and escape to a country in the sun for a few weeks! and if you come here to Brazil I will buy you an ice-cold beer on the beach and a nice meal in a restaurant!

Talk to you all again real soon!!


Monday, 26 January 2009

The Brit's "Me" Interview

Expat mum has interviewed me with 5 questions, so are you sitting comfortably?!....

1. How long have you been in Brazil, and what's your favourite thing about the country?

I've been in Brazil for ten years now and there is so much that I truly love about this wonderful diverse paradise of a country! But if I have to mention just one favourite thing it would have to be the people...
I have travelled a lot and have seen many countries but never before have I met people like the Brazilians, who find something to smile and laugh about in the worst of situations. As you walk through the streets and on the beaches here you won't see anyone who isn't in a good mood, everyone greets you with a smile and people are always ready to genuinely help you if you need.
It gives a whole light, positive, happy and overall spiritual feel to the country and that is why so many first-time tourists to Brazil fall in love with this amazing country, despite the bad publicity that it sometimes gets.
My advice to first-time travellers to Brazil would be don't listen to the bad press and spend two or three weeks in the country, in particular Rio de Janeiro, I guarantee that you will fall in love!

2. What do you do when you're not blogging?

You mean there's actually life outside blogging?! haha!
Well, professionally I work as an English teacher, which I have been doing here for ten years.
I give lessons to teenagers and adults in English schools as well as businessmen and businesswomen in large companies. Alhough at the moment I am focusing more on private lessons as I can earn more money, choose my hours and ultimately have more time to myself.
For leisure I enjoy travelling, cinema, Dvd's, music, writing, reading and taking care/playing with my dogs.

3. You write great lyrics. Do you have any aspirations in that field? (If not, why not?)

Wow thanks!! I do have aspirations in writing song lyrics and poetry professionally, in fact I have sent many samples off to some publishing houses but no luck as yet... the problem is that many publishing houses don't specialise in this area, but I'm not giving up as I know that I have the talent to write a lot of quality work! One day I hope that I can be discovered - just need to find more addresses to send my work to.

4. What memories do you treasure from England?

Ahhh... how long have you got? haha!
I have so many treasured memories from "good old blighty" of which my main ones are the times I spent with my family, in particular my Mother and Grandmothers as since I have lived in Brazil they have all sadly passed away, so my family is getting smaller and smaller... memories are all that are left when we lose people who are so dear to us so it's extremely important to hold onto every single one.
I have the very strong memory of my Mother on the very last day that I saw her alive as we held onto each other for the longest time at the departure gate at Gatwick Airport when I was coming to live in Brazil. We were both holding each other up as we were crying so much and couldn't control ourselves. It was a terrible day but that image stayed with me and it's really poetic now knowing that it was our "final goodbye"
Other memories are fun times with friends, great conversations filled with the classic British irony and sarcasm which is (as you yourself mentioned Expat mum) so hard to find outside England. I miss having very funny conversations with people who "get" my sick, twisted and very dark sense of humour! If I make a dry joke here I spend almost half an hour trying to explain it all so you kind of leave those things behind in England.... that's sad as I thrived on irony and sarcasm.

5. What are your plans for 2009?

To travel some more. I travel a lot inside Brazil as it is such a vast country and I want to explore more of it, maybe the Amazon Rainforest.
Also I want to really try my hardest to get some of my work published, anything...
As much as I love it I don't want to be an English teacher forever and I know that I have more talents to be able to do more things that I really love.
But more than anything I want to keep on loving, living, laughing and loving life because life is too precious and too short to waste.

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I want to thank Expat mum for her wonderful questions and for taking the time to "interview" me!

If you would like to participate in the "Me" Interview here are the instructions:

1. If you want to be interviewed, leave me a comment saying "Interview me."
2. I will respond by e-mailing you five questions (I get to pick the questions).
3. You will update your blog with the answers to the questions and let me know when you have posted it.
4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.


Sunday, 25 January 2009

"Travelling At The Speed Of Life" - Original Poetry By Me

Past times are gone,
With bright days ahead,
How far that I've come,
T'was my angel that led.

I banish the sadness,
Let happiness flow,
But I love you and miss you,
More than you know.

Now laughter's my friend,
Casting demons aside,
I ran from the terror,
But no longer I hide.

I sit in the sunshine,
I dive in the sea,
I run on the pavements,
I'm happy and free.

No more will I cry,
No more trouble or strife,
I'm smiling and travelling,
At the speed of my life.

© 01/2009